Monday, 16 February 2009

The Day After Vanetine's...

Unlike 'The Day After Tomorrow', which was a terrible excuse for a film, The Day After Valentine's was rather enjoyable, and thankfully not covered in 6 feet of snow.

Jake Gyllenhaal wouldn't have gone amiss though.

On Saturday, Hubby took me out for a textbook meal at the restaurant in town which we go to every year. I spent most of the night undressing the waiting staff with my eyes. I can't deny that since James was been in the picture, things between us have been a great deal calmer. We had a really lovely evening actually. Hubby is back to his 'old self' (he threw a half a breadroll at manger in protest to how obscenely stale they were - that is the man I know and love).

If Valentine's day was a little '7 Brides', the following evening was unashamedly '9 1/2 weeks'. James and I planned to go to dinner in central and take a romantic stroll along the river. This plan was violently scuppered by our inability to get out of bed. A gloriously wasted evening.

Janine received a Valentine's card over the weekend. With a poem! You should see her. It's anonymous but she keeps reading it again and again, expecting the sender's name to materialise. I do hope it wasn't New Boy who sent it.




In hindsight, New Boy is hardly Shakespeare. In fact, I wouldn't be surprised if he thought Shakespeare was another term for jousting. Or a euphemism for sex. The moron.

5 comments:

Smitten said...

Hi there like you I am married the spark is missing for me but not for my hubby. I was bored at home, married with children, running around doing everthing for everyone else and nothing for myself. I joined IE last year, I was curious and for the last 9 months have been having the time of my life with a married man I met on the site. I guess he is my escape and I his. We have a wonderful ability to communicate, we are never short of things to say. Picture this out for dinner with hubby and nothing to say. Out for dinner with my lover and the conversation keeps on flowing and flowing and flowing. I never tire of hearing from him and what he has to say nor does he tire of me. Infact he really does miss when for what ever reason I may not be able to see him or take his call it's unbearable for him and he has been honest enough to admit to this. Another even bigger ability is the ability to excite each other. Great communication, great flirtation, magical kisses and mind blowing sex. Does it get any better? It truely is like being an excited teenager each time we are in each other's company. Neither of us set out to fall in love but that is what's happened, it's a genuine unconditional love, a passionate love, lustful, stimulating, exciting, kind, gentle and supportive love. We have just enjoyed a holiday together. Being able to spend Valentines together was both magical and worth all the effort and lies (I still don't feel great about the lies but they are necessary in order to see each other) of planning our trip. Do I feel guilty now ..... Not even a bit! We are both at the stage now that we are seriously considering ending our marriages not a step either one of us has taken lightly. IS IT SELFISH TO PUT OURSELVES AND OUR OWN HAPPINESS AHEAD OF OTHERS? I love this man and know that he loves me deeply. We are consumed and besotted by each other. I am the first person he speaks to in the morning and the last person he speaks to at night. God Bless modern communication, my mobile has been my link to sanity with him. What does our future hold, time will tell. We both know we want to be together, now we have to put steps in place to do so, I have no doubt that we will have our happy ending sooner rather than later.

Have fun life is too short to let a good thing pass you by.

J said...

Hi there, I have enjoyed reading your account. Like you I too am a member of IE. I am so pleased your experience was good. I met someone who I believed was special but after getting me into bed, which was amazing, turned out to be a serial picker-uper on IE. He even tried to make a second 'special' date with me and try to cut the evening short by making arrangements to meet someone else the same evening. So any ladies out there, beware, some of them arent quite what they seem

Lonely Wife said...

Lovin your Blog Shelley! Its interesting to read someone elses account of how they are getting on.
I have been on and off IE for some time now, and met a few interesting men - one of which I had a fairly long relationship with.

However, ultimately the effort of continuing an extra marital relationship with me was too much for him (not sure why he bothered to come onto the site in the first place!) and we now only meet occasionally for mind blowing sex - which leaves me feeling as bad as when I am rejected by my husband.

Im pleased that things are going well for you with James - it gives me hope that there is someone out there for me!

My relationship with my husband is comfortable but has not been intimate for 12 years. I love him dearly - and I have done everything within my power to try and resolve the situation, but he just refuses to get any help.

You can imagine, my self esteem was on the floor!
I never imagined when I married him that my sex life would be dead before the age of 30!

IE at least gives me hope that i can find someone to bridge the gaps in my life whilst allowing me to remain ultimately with the man I adore (my husband).

You may have inspired me to write my own blog! :)
I shall be watching yours with interest!


I wish you luck in your relationship and hope it is what you need to prop up your marriage.

Ivan Borges said...

Bullshit you are nothing but a easy target for other men, because if you have tried everything you would've never cheated on him and I'm pretty sure by now he found out and kicked you to the curve cheaters will always have excuse for everything but dont realise that the reason they cheat is because they are miserable lonely,broken, and selfish and immature people.

Ivan Borges said...

Bullshit you are nothing but a easy target for other men, because if you have tried everything you would've never cheated on him and I'm pretty sure by now he found out and kicked you to the curve cheaters will always have excuse for everything but dont realise that the reason they cheat is because they are miserable lonely,broken, and selfish and immature people.