Monday, 27 April 2009

In response to MC...

James. Oh Jamesy James James.

Things are great with James. Our relationship has slotted nicely alongside my marriage. We see each other at set times and dates, and although it sound terribly dull, it's actually fantastic. The two relationships seems to have become one. I'm happy, James is happy, and Hubby is happy.

I don't know if anyone can identify with this, but it feels as if what James and Hubby give to me has created the perfect functional relationship. I'm sure most people would see this as greed, but now I don't know if I could return to the way things were before. This unorthodox method seems to have created a strangely normal situation.

Would love to here everyone's stories of how their 'illicit' relationships have helped bolster their marriages...

Love, Shell x

3 comments:

MC said...

Thanks for the update, Shelly. Glad to hear things are going well.

As for my experience, I am still looking for the kind of relationship you have with James; something fulfilling and ongoing. I have had a number of fruitless meets with the exception of one man who I met over the course of several weeks who then disappeared. On the one hand, these experiences have made me less happy in my relationship, as the inevitable rejection can compound the unhappiness that brought me to IE in the first place. On the other hand, every time I meet a man who has, say, lied about his age or is a jerk, I appreciate the good qualities in my husband. If only those good qualities included having sex with me!

mystery said...

It is possible and it works! I have also found the perfect supplement to my marriage - someone who provides everything my husband doesn't. It has been a long search though, you were lucky to find James so soon...

Kevin said...

Nice to hear from you again Shelly! Yes, I seem tpo be in the ideal situation, just like you. My mistress supplies me with the romantic, exciting side of things - and like you, we tend to meet at set times and places each week - while m,y relationship with my wife has got warmer and more fun because we are both relaxed about the sexual side of things (she doesn't feel pressured and I don't feel the need to pressure her). My only worry is that my mistress is getting too close to me...